Updated: Sep 29, 2020
As a matchmaker, I sometimes have attractive and successful clients come to me expressing how depressed they feel due to online dating and dating apps. They tell me things such as that they have been ghosted so often by dates that they don’t feel good about their themselves anymore and that their self-esteem has been lowered since they started dating online. As a matchmaker with a degree in behavioral psychology, this has made me wonder if one of the reasons for the drastic increase in suicide rates in recent years, is partially due to the rise in online dating and dating app usage. Here are the reasons there might be a connection.
According to a study published by Cnn.com, “online dating lowers self-esteem and increases depression” and that after a period of time of using dating apps such as Tinder people “may begin to feel depersonalized and disposable in their social interactions, develop heightened awareness (and criticism) of their looks and bodies and believe that there is always something better around the corner, or rather with the next swipe of their screen, even while questioning their own worth.”
The articles goes on to say that more people are using online dating and dating apps than ever before and the number of people who use these methods for dating has greatly increased every year. What I find peculiar is that at same time that the usage of dating apps has increased, the suicide rate in the United States has also increased. According to an article published by Time.com, the suicide rate increased by 33% between 1999 and 2017, the highest it’s ever been in the US since 1942 during WWII. In 1942 the country was coming out of an economic great depression, and that is not the case in 2019.
Is the increase in dating app usage partially the reason for the increase in suicides in the US in the past few years? Correlation does not equal causation but when you put these factors together, you start to see that they might be connected. People are putting themselves at risk for depression and lowered self-esteem by using these apps, often with the hope that someday it will lead to a long term relationship. But sadly that rarely happens since according to a study published by eharmony.com, only 20% of people in committed relationships meet through dating website or dating apps. So why put yourself at risk for depression when the odds are that low that using a dating app will ever even lead to anything serious? Let me know in the comments below if you’ve experienced something similar or know someone who has, or if you think there is a connection between these two factors. And if you would like a professional to do the work for you, finding you the love of your life, and some guidance during the dating process, check out my home page to learn more about my matchmaking services!
With Light and Love,
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